You are important !!

Last time I was conversing with an acquaintance who told me that she refused to buy some stuff for her as she was a dependant and not earning. She defended her side with the logic that she supposed herself to be wise as to save. My question to her was save for whom? If the stuff was needed and the person offered to get it for you then why did you deny? You valued the saving, you valued the person’s hard earned money but did you value your need? Where else can you think you can get the stuff from? The answer may be- by earning myself. And till then forego the need! Do without it !!

People who are financial dependants say housewives face such situations daily when they forego a need or a desire just because they think that it would be too much to ask for themselves. Each time they do it they curse their dependence. They curse themselves not having the potential to fulfill their needs. Then there are some people who don’t agree to compromise. They know how to get things done and by any means- pursuation, drama or beg,borrow,steal ……by hook or by crook. Who is better?

Most of us would choose the first lot !! They who save and value someone’s earnings!! But if I say….. that I find the second lot to be better. Most would not agree with me. Will never second me. But for a while let’s consider the other side of the coin. The second lot of people who did not compromise actually have a higher self esteem, higher self worth and honour their needs. Honour themselves!! Though they are not earning or say earning less but that doesn’t hold them back from asking for what they want. May be….or say definitely their ways are wrong. I completely agree !! But then as beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder I do not find these people to be completely wrong !! No they are not ! They are the ones who value themselves !! They are not greedy but they have the guds if not the funds, to desire. And these are the people who actually amaze us with their efforts to fulfill it !!

I am not trying to support their ways. Their ways is not my point of discussion….but their will is. Their determination is. And this determination if taken positively has a lot to learn from. Now if a person lovingly asks a dependant or a less earning one to get something , be it costly,for him or her…..then his answer should be to gratefully accept the gift and to make up his mind to make every effort to repay the favor sooner or later. That’s where you are going right!! In the same way if you are asking for something which you yourself cannot afford then think of the reason why you cannot afford? Have you tried to improve your situation? Have you tried to increase your potential? Have you tried to earn the thing on your own? If you have the determination to get your desire fulfilled …..then you definitely are the person with every potential to earn it yourself !!